Be Heartbreak Proof

1) Friends First

• Yes people marry their best friends.

• Build genuine friendship with him or her before courtship.

• Get to know this person genuinely, in a relaxed low pressure setting. Don't rush.

• It's easier to maintain peace with a friend vs. an ex.

2) What is he/she looking for?

• Do they actually want to get married one day?

• When do they want to get married?

• Do they want children?

• Where do they want to live?

• These are important questions to ask to determine if you are compatible.

3) Be Prudent, Have Discretion

• Understand human nature

• Understand how relationships work

• Learn to have good judgement

• How? Read books, start in the Bible 📖Proverbs

  
  

4) Introduce Him/Her to your Circle

• You have blind-spots even the most spiritual people have them

• Other people can see what you can't see

• Let your friends, homecell / connect group see them

• A Godly leader can provide godly counsel

5) Be Wise and Discerning

• Wisdom comes from God

• Discernment comes from your relationship with the Holy Spirit

• The Holy Spirit can nudge you if something is off

• Don't ignore that still small voice

6) Don't Give Him/Her Money

• Money can complicate things.

• Being a Christian doesn't mean you should be naive

• Don't be gullible

• This is why you need Discernment

• Wisdom teaches you to discern when to help a friend in need and know when you are being used for money.

• Don't allow yourself to be love bombed, be careful about receiving gifts/money

• Not every gift is a gift, some "gifts" are bribes

7) No Sex!

• No friends with benefits.

• Having sex with someone you are not married to is complete disobedience to God.

• In simple terms, it's dangerous.

• Sex outside of marriage is deadly...

• It leads to soul ties, and even puts your health at risk.

8) Don't Be Desperate

• Desperate Singles make foolish decisions.

• When you are desperate to find a spouse, you put unnecessary pressure on yourself.

• Desperation fogs your brain, you can't think clearly.

• Desperation makes you lower godly biblical standards.

• Desperation leads you to compromise.

• Desperation makes you impatient.

9) Before You Catch Feelings…

• Be sober, be vigilant

• Be sober about your feelings towards that man or woman

• Intense feelings will lead to heartbreak

10) Don't Mislead Him / Her

• Be open and honest about what you want

• Communicate your intentions clearly

• Check your own behaviour towards that person. Is it misleading?

• Don't treat them like a romantic partner if they are not.

• Both of you have to agree to be in a relationship. If he/she doesn't clearly agree, then you are not in a relationship

• Respect their decision if they don't want a relationship with you.

• Let him / her go in peace. Don't linger around.